Exploring Female Sexual Fantasies

Sexual fantasies have been shown to be associated with high libido as defined by high sex drive and orgasm frequency.

This was especially true for women : those who had more sexual fantasies also had higher sexual desire and sexual satisfaction. Pleasure fuels a desire for more pleasure. And while there exists a common false belief that men daydream about sex every seven seconds or so during their waking hours, women also frequently fantasize, especially after they have become aroused. Indeed, women who have sexual fantasies during arousal are much more likely to experience orgasms than women who do not.

A rich fantasy life is often at the core of a woman's ability to achieve orgasm. This is very evident during female masturbation because there isn't another person there to connect with, so fantasy becomes the key!!!. Sexual fantasy doesn't have to have any basis in reality. You can fantasize about being dominated by a man and still be a feminist. Pretending that your dildo is your husband's best friend doesn't have to lead to infidelity. Fantasizing about another woman doesn't mean you're gay.

Anal Sex Fantasies: Anything that is "taboo" can be a huge turn on as a fantasy. That's because naughty is nice sometimes. Unlike the way it may be in the real world, anal sex never has to hurt in your fantasy. Fantasizing about this doesn't have to be accompanied by anal play, but if you've never tried it, you may find that you like it. Just remember to use lots of sex lubricant and that anything that goes near your butt needs to stay away from your vagina.

Domination Sex-Fantasies: Here you find that you are in the position of total power over a man. It can be your partner, boss, ex boyfriend, the checkout boy, or your coworker that you have a crush on. It can even be a complete stranger. It doesn't matter who you dominate as the pleasure comes from that feeling of having total control of the situation. You're the boss and the other person is powerless to stop you from doing what you want to them, including making them do whatever you want to you.

Lesbian Sex Fantasies: These fantasies are so common these days that it's almost strange when a woman doesn't have them. With another woman you can experience the softness, gentleness, and caring that some men find difficult to offer. Simultaneous multiple orgasm can be more easily achieved with a closeness that a woman can give. Fantasizing about a woman can lend itself to a feeling of natural sensuality. This could almost be a whole set of categories, because every one of the other fantasies can be with a woman rather than a man.

Sex in Public Fantasies: The sex in public fantasy is not about people watching you have sex. Rather it's about fooling around somewhere where there's the risk of getting caught.

Sex Toys Fantasies: Many of you still don't own sex toys . Figure out the reason and use it to turn you on. For example, if you think sex toys are "dirty" then let yourself feel dirty by fantasizing about being a bad girl who uses them.

Submission Fantasies: This is the exact opposite of the dominating role in that you will now give up total control to your partner and will bow down to their every wish. You will be the sexual slave who exists solely to please your lover. You do what you're told and are unable to resist the pleasure they choose to bestow upon you (when they're done with you pleasing them of course).

Do You Wanna Fantasy???

... Massage YourSelf

One advantage to female genital massage is that by caressing the outside and forgoing penetration, the risk of transmitting an STD (including HIV) is greatly reduced. However, HIV and other STDs do exist in transmissible levels in vaginal fluids, so it's a good idea to use a latex glove, especially if you gave yourself a good enough manicure, which can break the skin. A glove also can smooth out any calluses, dry skin or hangnails, and any remaining ragged fingernails. For a different sensation, use lubricant glove.

"If you use massage oil, make sure your lover washes any residual oil away before using latex. In addition, oils may cause irritation if they get inside the vagina"

Are You Ready for a Sexy Time?

Try starting out with extremely light touch, perhaps before you apply the lube. Just gently tickle the pubic hair, outer lips, inner lips, upper thighs, vaginal entrance, and buttocks.

Try drumming your fingers very lightly against the labia, vaginal opening, and clit hood. Add some lube and use your fingers and the palm of your hand to very gently stroke the labia, clitoral hood, and vaginal entrance. If you are feeling adventurous, you can get the anus into the act, but be sure not to move a finger from the anus to the vagina (It's dangerous bacteria can leapfrog that way). If you're going to play with both the anus and the vagina, use separate hands or change latex gloves in between.

Try putting your whole hand over the vulva with your fingers closed, and very gradually increase the pressure. You can press harder for as long as it feels good, or until you reach a comfortable level, and gently move your hand around in circles. You can start out doing this slowly, and move up to a vibrator-like action if that draws a positive response.

If you've got a free hand, touch your belly, breasts, face, hair, arms and shoulders.(That connection may make the play feel even more intimate).

...The feminine sexuality has been the source of deep mysteries. If you are a woman Enjoy Yourself!!!