The Art of Seduction to Sex
..."I Want To Have Sex With her"
Lovers and food have been written about in epics, told in sonnets and used in rituals to unite people together. Wars have been fought over cuisine, and kings have made treaties over exquisite dinners. Love is the one topic that even Shakespeare couldn't really quite wrap his finger around and has churned out the most novels in the history of literature.
Seduction... lure of sex in all its complexity and shades of emotion, from flirtatious to cruel, delight to despair, domination to submissiveness, sensual sex, sex alone and with others, self-destructive and self-transcendent, foolish, obsessive, personal and charismatic.
Lets take a typical supplicator, "nice guy" routine, so you can get the point of what i'm saying. Guy goes up to hot sexy 8 or 9 and start to shower her with complements, like, "You looking really nice and sexy, your hair looks nice, i like your eyes" etc etc. What do you think is going through her mind at this point? "Kiss-ass, loser, punk, jelly-back", anything to dump you in her mind and move on to a real man.
Change can be yours though. One thing to remember when approching women you want to seduce, especially the ones on the higher end of the scale is that they receive complements everywhere from all the other supplicating guys out there. You dont want to approach her with the same lame boring theme. She knows she looks good. She knows she's sexy. Its being drummed into her head every day, so she dosen't need you to repeat the same lame jargon like a broken record. She wants you to be original.
Now, to be original and different you have to do a bit of work, like visiting sites like this and learning the strategies to be what women really want. For example, you want to maintain control the conversation at all times. One way to do this is, while communicating together, make sure to talk about, not yourself but her, as much as you can. Never talk about youself. Do the reverse to what most guys do. You might also want to find any simple thing she does to establish your authority and solidify your maleness. What do i mean? Well, lets say she accuses you of wanting only sex. Here is your chance to shine. Make a big deal out of it and be very suprised and appauled that she could ever think this. Make her think she lost some points with you or even lost some respect. This will propel you in her mind as a strong man who stands up to her. You will start to look alot more like a sexual partner in her eyes.
Pay-Off... Art of Seduction
Here's the deal, you don't just want to get a woman into your bed in the middle of the night when both of you are slightly tipsy and so horny you can't wait to rip off each others clothes, you want to be able to keep her there for awhile if she's a keeper, and especially if you've been going out for awhile and you'd like nothing more than several hours of lazy hang out time (including more sex) the next day.
How do you do your best to make sure this can happen?
...You make sure she's comfortable
Let's face it men, many of us are slobs. Once we moved away from home and didn't have our mothers to remind us to pick up our rooms and handle our laundry we can quickly let things get out of hand. What we often don't realize though is the tremendous detriment this sloppy attitude can have on our love lives. Most women just aren't comfortable in an environment of sheets that haven't been washed in months, the only clothes you have piled on the floor, and with the only thing to eat in the fridge old pizza and the remainders of a six pack.
The Art of Seduction in the Bedroom
- Make your bedroom pleasant on the eyes.
- Have clean laundry.
- Have a clean and properly stocked bathroom.
- A nicely stocked fridge.
- Proper tools in your bedroom.
Think I'm being too picky about all of this? Think I'm asking too much? Everything I'm spelling out for you here is about preparing for success. Think about it, if you want to be a success as a salesman you prepare. You wear the right suit, you read the right books, you learn your product backwards and forwards and you learn successful sales pitches.basically you prepare for success so that you can handle it when it arrives. Once you've learned the art of seduction, the same goes for meeting women and asking them out, and the very same thing goes for bringing women home.
Ladies Love It Neat - Just Like Your Seduction Art
The classier the dame basically the neater she's usually going to be, and the neater she's going to want you to be. The more of a typical "sloppy bachelor pad" you have the sooner she's going to want to "exit stage left." So, in order to keep her around, make sure your place is picked up and presentable. She's not going to want to hang out on your couch watching your favorite movies and reading the paper with you if you have to move piles of junk just so that she has a place to sit down. Ditto a coffee table covered with your porn magazines and old take-out food. It just doesn't make the right impression.
Why You Need Clean Laundry
If she sleeps over she might need a pair of your boxers and a t-shirt to lounge around in the next day because chances are the outfit she wore the evening before is probably nice and sexy, but not comfortable for having a lazy Sunday in. You also need clean towels to offer her if she wants to take a shower - or if you take a shower together.
Bathroom Basics
It's just a fact that women have smaller bladders than we do, so they need to pee more often, and they need toilet paper. Nothing scares off a woman more than a dirty bathroom with no supplies. Also, if she's going to hang out with you the next day she'll want to brush her teeth so you need a spare tooth brush. Trust me, she's going to be too grateful to have a toothbrush to care why in the heck you have it. You'll win even more brownie points if you've got facial cleanser and a facial moisturizer in your medicine chest - remember if you've been paying attention Queer Eye taught you a long time ago that you shouldn't be washing your face with a bar of soap anymore.
Food In The Fridge
Nothing impresses a woman more than a man who can cook and has a nicely stocked fridge. Think about it, if you have the goods to whip up a wonderful brunch right at home you won't need to leave (ditto if you've got stuff for lunch and dinner). It also sets up in her mind that you're the sort of guy who's a great provider, that she won't have to be the one thinking about shopping and cooking all the time if you keep seeing each other.
The Successful Bedroom
If you want to keep her around you'll have clean sheets and all the necessary ingredients for successful sex - and by that I mean you'll have both condoms and lube (cause it's not all about you), and if you're smart you'll have candles for mood, and drapes or shades on the windows because you might be able to sleep through blinding sunlight in the morning but she might not be able to. Remember, making her happy the first time you have sex, and then having a comfortable place for her to sleep, means your chances for round two (or three or four) are greatly increased.
Let's face it, nothing's sexier than spending hours hanging out having sex with a woman you're totally hot for.
Oral Sex?
Give Her Oral Pleasure...
First off, be very careful how you approach her clitoris, this small bunch of nerves packs a powerful punch. And don't forget that her entire pelvic region is super sensitive to stimulation as well. The undersides of her buttocks, her inner thighs, and her outer vaginal lips are all super sensitive and love to be kissed, caressed and licked.
Tongue to Lips:Any licking, sucking and all-around moisture from the mouth to the vaginal entrance, the labia (lips) or the clitoris is surely going to make you popular with your flavor of the evening. Start off slowly... pretend that her entire vagina is a cherry lollipop and you've been dying to get a lick of it. Start by using your tongue to lick her vagina from her entrance up to her clitoris. Remember to chill out and relax -- enjoy yourself and don't get tense.
Move your tongue freely from her inner lips to her outer labia on one side, whilst keeping all her lips inside your mouth. And since the other side will probably get jealous, move on to the other side afterwards.
Stick in Your Tongue:Were you aware that the tongue is the body's strongest muscle? Well imagine what you could do with your tongue if you were sexing her with it. Since you have more control with your tongue than with your penis, the sensations will drive her crazy. Not only is your tongue naturally lubricated with saliva, it can maneuver itself in ways that a penis never could. So why not use your tongue to have sex with her? Stick your tongue in and out, and when you're in, move your tongue around..Explore!
Solidify your tongue at first and then allow it to soften, by relaxing your tongue muscles while licking her gently. Changing your cadence will keep her on her toes (or off as the case may be), wondering what your next move will be. Don't be afraid to roam around, but remember to continuously return to her clitoris since most women's orgasms are clitoral -- especially when it comes to cunnilingus.
Make sure not to apply too much pressure to her clitoris off the bat because it may irritate her and turn her off. Start out gently and, by reading her signals, increase pressure and speed accordingly.
Intense Vaginal Volume:When you've got her as hot as a lion in heat, the following techniques are going to drive her wild. Once again, make sure to pay attention to her reactions and body language at all times. With her clitoris still exposed, give it quick little sucks by pulling it into your mouth momentarily and releasing it. This will definitely have a positive effect on her entire body. Next, take her clitoris into your mouth and gently suck on it continuously whilst simultaneously flicking your tongue over and around it. You can perform this technique very lightly or aggressively, depending on what she likes.
If you combine this technique with your fingers , she will virtually reach mind-blowing orgasms every time.
Can't we all get along?
There is nothing that a woman likes more than a multi-talented man. And if you know how to use both your tongue and fingers at the same time, you will definitely become the jack of all trades. While you're French kissing her clitoris, use your finger to rub it at the same time. Or, if you think that you can literally perform two different motions simultaneously, then whilst sucking on her clitoris, insert your finger(s) inside her and penetrate her vagina like a penis would.
Be careful not to lose sight of what you're doing because the vagina is a very shady, sensitive area and one wrong move can leave you hanging out to dry. Keep up with what you're doing to her. Make sure that you're not thrusting your fingers too deep or too fast.
The Tongue's The One
Use your tongue freely and don't be afraid to venture into uncharted territory; the more relaxed you are, the more relaxed she will be. And perhaps you weren't aware of this, but the feeling of your woman letting all of her juice flow all over your mouth is one of the world's greatest aphrodisiacs.
No one likes a slobbering idiot, so don't lose your mind while you're in her sacred garden. Don't start drooling all over her vagina and don't do random things -- always have a plan when you're going down.
Lastly, and I can't stress this enough, don't bite any part of the vagina . Not only can it cause physical harm, but you'll probably get thrown out of her house.
Useful Positions...
In order to make your buffet as comfortable and as enjoyable as possible, have your lady lie on her back with her legs spread apart and her knees slightly bent. Lie on your stomach between her legs. Place both of your arms under her legs. Your head ends up comfortably facing your objective. Your arms wrap around her legs, which in turn, leave your hands free.
You can also sit in the same position and place both of your hands under her behind, propping it up so that it comes directly into your face. Although this requires a little more strength and requires both your hands, it can be very pleasurable for your woman.
Finally, you can have her lie down right at the edge of the bed, make her lie back, lift her feet to rest them on the edge of the bed as well, and you'll have plenty of access while you kneel in front of her love cave. You are not restricted to these positions; there are plenty of other ones that guys can use to perform cunnilingus. Remember, don't be shy -- experiment and have fun. Until next time, bon appetit!
Hottest Sex Positions...
... You Need To Master!
The "hottest" sex positions are the best sex positions and allow both you and your partner to experience the greatest pleasure and come to an orgasm. Seems obvious, right? But it's amazing how many otherwise intelligent people totally miss this point.
'Woman on Top' Sex Position: Some women don't like to be "on top" because they feel the man gets to be too lazy and only has to lay back and watch the show. You can remedy this by having the man sit up against pillows so that it's far easier to kiss and the woman can feel more engaged with the man. The woman really does need to set the pace with this position since she's the one with the greatest range of motion possible. If she needs greater clitoral stimulation than this position normally gives her she should arch forward and do more of a grinding motion that thrusting so that her clitoris will be rubbing up against the man pubic bone. If she needs even more stimulation she should be brave and use her own fingers to stimulate herself while finding a rhythm that works for you both. The man can add even greater stimulation by caressing the sensitive undersides of her buttocks, or stroking her back door (make sure she's well lubricated) or even inserting a finger into her anus (but ask permission first).
'Doggy Style' Sex Position: Men love this position because, well, it's easy as pie and it allows us to gaze at a woman's sexual plumbing. For many women it's a favorite position because it can be great for "G-spot" stimulation, however, for many women men can thrust too deep and actually hit a woman's cervix, which some women enjoy, but many find extremely painful.
'Missionary Style' Sex Position: Yes, the old standard is still a favorite for many couples because it's one of the most intimate, but again this position only works for both parties with good communication.
...The roles of 'hunter' and 'prey' have been decided through thousands of years of evolution, and usually fall naturally into place.
