The Art Of The Erotic Massage

...If you've never given one of these wonderfully Erotic Massages, never fear. It's simple, step-by-step instructions will leave you feeling and acting like an experienced erotical and sensual masseuse or masseur...

Giving and receiving an erotic massage can be a wonderfully personal and at times erotic pleasure for both the person receiving the massage and the person giving it! An erotic massage can stimulate the body, relax the mind and make someone feel that much more special about them selves. Talk to your partner about your upcoming experience.(Make sure he or she understands the difference between traditional and sensual or erotic massage).

The art of giving an erotic massage is not have sex as such, instead it is to totally relax and turn on your partner at the same time. An erotic massage should be given to your partner in a setting that allows them to relax and somewhere that they feel comfortable. (Put a towel down on the bed so you don't get massage oils on the sheets).

• Light some candles and burn some incense or put some essential oils in a burner to create a soft, erotic and romantic setting.
• Put on some soft and soothing music, something like Enya, or waterfalls or something innocuous, but soothing.

Starting with the feet and moving up is one way to go about it another is starting at the head and working your way down. We want to reiterate, there is no one way of doing an erotic massage, so start wherever you are comfortable ... just keep experimenting. A suggestion for first timers would be to start at the soldiers, then go to the neck, scalp, run your fingers down to his or her shoulders, arms, upper back, lower back, buttocks, thighs, calves, and then feet; then flip him or her over and work back up. Some areas are better massaged softly, others are better if they are massaged deeper, so start trying!

Lubrication

Lubrication or massage oils are very important to help your hands glide all over his body. If you are intending to have penetrative sex, then use a water based lubricant, but preferably an erotic massage should not include sex. If you don't have any massage oils, hand cream, or even a very light olive oil can be used instead. Make sure to use water-based, or silicone-based lubricants on men, and use only water-based lubricants on women to avoid vaginal infections.

Getting Started

• You should undress to create the full body to body contact.
• Warm up your hands by rubbing them together before touching his body.
• Cover his body in warm towels all except the place where you will start the massage.
• You can warm up towels by putting them in a dryer for a few minutes so they are nice and warm and toasty!

Sensual and Erotic Touch Massage

The combination of scent and erotic touches is extremely effective in opening up intimacy between two people. That's basically how we communicate love in an effective way, a way that doesn't involve having to discuss the subject a great deal. It also works wonderfully on a basic physical level. There are a lot of nerve endings that follow along the path of the spine. As you massage, your touch brings the blood to the surface, you speed the absorption of the oils into the skin, and you also bring up the level of oxytocin, the hormone needed in high levels for the process of sexual arousal.

Erotic Massage is an especially good thing for men to focus on. Women often need the kind of attention it gives them o feel comfortable with proceeding on to more intimate activities. You will have more interesting and intense erotic experiences if you're involved on all levels with each other. Using oils will make it quite a different, and far more erotical and exciting, experience.

"The idea to give a erotic massage is not to become an expert masseuse or masseur, the erotic massage is a seduction ritual! you can be creative and playful".

Pre- Massage

- Massage yourself first: Wrap yourself in a towel for easy access. Warm up some oil in your hands and work the tendons at the back of your neck with your fingertips. Gently rub your arms and shoulders. Rub your temples slowly in circular motions and massage your jaw area for a moment since it usually contains a lot of tension. By rubbing yourself first, not only do you feel more in the mood, you actually prep your hands for your partner.

After...Let your hands in a erotic command...

Lay her body down comfortably: Lay her nude (or semi-nude) body stomach down on the bed and make sure she's in a comfortable position. Smooth the oil over her entire back in wide, smooth strokes with the flat part of your palm. Don't knead her body too intensely because you may end up causing more harm than comfort.

Rub her slowly and deeply; remember to be continuously erotic and sensual. Take your time and rub her in a way that makes her feel like you're willing to devote all the time in the world to her. Let her know that she has the option of reaching out and touching you whenever she wants.

Tease, don't squeeze: Work your way down from the back of her neck to her shoulders. Don't squeeze her neck because you may end up causing an unwanted choking sensation. If you're working the shoulders, be careful not to squeeze her collarbones with the muscle because it's an agonizing sensation.Stretch out her arms and massage her biceps lightly with your fingertips. Work the back on either side of the spinal cord, but never push deeply on the spine itself. Use upward strokes laterally along the spine until you reach her tailbone. .

The Welcoming Press: With your lover lying face down, straddle him or her or kneel at their side. Gently press down on your partner's shoulders, and on either side of the spine. Do not press directly on the spin at any time during the erotic massage. This stroke gives your partner a few moments to get used to the feeling of your hands on their skin.

The Back Warmer: Now begin to warm your lover's back. With a flat hand, fingers together, palm in contact with the skin, move the hands in parallel lines up either side of the spine, then out and across the shoulders, and down the sides of the torso.

Kneading: Working as deeply as is comfortable for your partner, use your fingers to knead the muscles of the back, starting with the neck and shoulders and working your way down. Go slowly and use additional oil as necessary.

Raking: Spread your fingers and, keeping them somewhat stiff, rake them down the back from shoulders to buttocks. This releases deep, underlying tissue tensions.

Lower Back: The lower back and sacrum (the downward-pointing triangle located between the buttocks at the end of the spine) can become congested and tender, especially in premenstrual women. Lightly massage this area with small, circular strokes on buttocks, hips and upper thighs. With a man, use lower back spirals. Starting at the top of the crack between the buttocks use your thumbs to make small spirals upwards along either side of the tailbone to the top of the sacrum, then press your thumbs along the top of the hips and move them out, across and down the side of the body to the floor. Repeat several times.

Buttocks: Try "Thumbs over the Mountain." Starting at the bottom, press your thumbs firmly into the flesh of the buttocks and follow the curve up, around, and down the side of the hips. This can be a tender and sensitive area, so use only as much pressure as your lover can comfortably tolerate. Return to the first position and move your thumbs apart slightly to describe a second curved line that is parallel to and outside the first, continuing until you have no curve left to follow. Repeat several times.

Thighs: Once you get to your lover's thighs, you may find yourself getting distracted and decide to shift your focus to other kinds of touching. Or you may want to try out some massage strokes of your own design. Or you can ask your partner to turn over and continue the massage with a few more strokes to the front of the body.

Shoulder and Chest Presses: Kneeling behind your partner, as he or she is lying face up, press down on the shoulders and hold. Ask your partner to take a deep, releasing breath, and let the essential oils work their magic as you increase the pressure of your hands slightly. At the end of the exhalation, release. Slide your hands up and over your lover's collar bone and press very gently. Have them take a deep breath as you hold, then release. Now move your hands to the center of the chest, (between a woman's breasts) and, laying one hand on top of the other, press very gently. Have your partner take a deep breath and release.

Sexual Energy Release Points, Neck and Ears: Encourage your lover to breathe in a deep and relaxing manner as you gently erotic massage their neck, making small circles over the release points on the upper neck and about halfway up the ears. If the massage is a prelude to lovemaking, now is a really good time to let the kissing begin. Remember, too, that a woman's breasts are highly charged with erotic energy and can create a dramatic arousal response when massaged or caressed.

How to use your hands

Everyone likes to be touched in that sensual kind of way. And although we all love massages, they're always a thousand times more enjoyable when done by a sexy lover. Erotic Massages can be used for anything from calming your lover down from a tough day at work to getting her primed for some enthusiastic lovemaking.

Give her a little TLC: After you've done your duty on her back and arms, work your way down to her legs, especially her inner thighs because they are incredibly sensitive. Her legs should be given special care. You don't have to be as cautious as with her back, but still remain gentle. Rub her legs one section at a time, starting at her thighs, moving to her calves and finally ending at her feet. Don't stay on the feet too long or she'll get too relaxed and sleepy.

Rub her the right way: While you're rubbing, lean over and let your chest rub against her back ever so slightly. Let other parts of your body rub up against hers while in the midst of your massage. From time to time, exhale slowly along her body and when you're about to come to a close, nibble on her ear. By the time you're done rubbing her body down, she'll have much more than just rubbing on her mind.

The erotic massage is really a sexual foreplay technique, rather than a form of massage. Massage focuses on muscles, whereas erotic massage focuses primarily on skin. It's been said that 95% of erotic (or sensual) massage is the same as other massage. There is nonetheless some information specifically about erotic massage in the archive.

So remember, foreplay should be used to tantalize the senses. Scents, touches, sounds, tastes and feels are probably the biggest parts of foreplay.Until next week, be safe, have fun and rub away...A massage should be a pleasant, sensual experience and there many things that can be done to ensure that it is so.